“It is not possible to control the outside of yourself until you have mastered your breathing space. It is not possible to change anything until you understand the substance you wish to change.”
~ Jeanette Winterson, Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit
It is a new year, and although not much has changed from 4 days ago, the feeling of newness and fresh beginnings are all around us. Something about a fresh year gives us a feeling of power and control. The feeling that we get a clean slate and therefor can make new decisions and life choices moving forward. Although I am not one for resolutions. I am one for plans, and this year one of my plans is to work on reflecting my focus inwards, creating art that not only expresses who my clients are, but speaks to the mission in which I am on.
When people think of BDSM their mind automatically goes to 50 Shades of Grey and other cliche’s like furry handcuffs…but when I think about it, I see it a bit differently. I think that with this series of images, Sara and I really set out to create a story of Self Mastery. Of becoming our own master and having full and total control of yourself. I am a believer that it is the instances when we are most vulnerable that our strengths really have the opportunity to shine through. It is when we are both literally and figuratively tied down that we must reflect inwards and come to terms with who we really are.
The rope work that is featured in the shoot is an ancient art form called Shibari. It was such a moment of exchanged energy and connection, for Sara and I, as I meticulously tied the ropes through her direction, taking the time to make sure every wrap and knot was lined up with perfection. I got to know quite a bit about the insane strength that this slender and delicate body held within. The lack of hesitation in her direction, the calm as she fully handed herself over to the process. It is something I admired…a moment that really struck a cord with me and dare I say changed me and my approach with myself and my clients. It was in the moment of the most vulnerability, stripped down and tied up that Sara’s strength of character and and self confidence really shined.
This process showed me how lucky I am to be handed the fragile trust of my clients, their confidence, their bruised egos, their fears and weaknesses and how important the work is that I do while helping these beautiful women see what I see. I realized the power that allowing vulnerability to be celebrated has for not only my clients, but how it strengthens me with every single woman I meet. The blessing that I am given as each of my clients exchange such private and personal stories and share their energy with me.
Because at the end of the day everything, including mastering yourself, is about an exchange of energy and power.
Makeup by: Cassandra McKenna