The Fear of Aging – Saratoga Springs | Albany | Troy | New York – Boudoir

by | Jul 23, 2018 | Uncategorized

Sometimes words escape us….and that is ok. I always ask our babes to send me a few words about their experience and when I asked this incredible woman the same, she thought she struggled with words, but what really happened was she spoke from such a true and beautiful place of vulnerability.

In my 20’s aging was never a thought in my mind…hell, I never thought I would live past 25 (hi anxiety) so now that I am 31, the concept of getting older has really started to impact my thoughts and decisions. I see my face changing and my breasts starting to fall. I see my hairs starting to turn out little strands of course silver and the frown lines on my forehead becoming permanently implanted there….because of the work I do, I have not stopped to look at these things as bad, but it is never shocking to me when women (pretty much any of our clients from age 30-75) start to really fear aging and getting older.

There was something that happened to me a year and a half ago the day I turned 30. I woke up and I felt totally different. Like all of my excuses of being “young” were gone. That the woman I woke up as that day was now the woman I was. It was only 1 day but something about entering my 30’s impacted me for the better. I was able to proudly say “This is me.”

I have to say, my 20’s were rough. I spent all 10 of those years so desperately trying to figure out who I was and what I wanted to be doing. Did I want to be a Broadway star? Did I want to be a stock broker? Did I want to be a photographer? WHO THE HELL WAS I? Was a question that constantly ran through my mind. But here I am only a few years later and I can confidently say that I know who I am. I can only imagine that with each passing year more of these questions will give way to answers as I am allowed to spend more time and more years with myself and learning who I am and what I want.

Aging is a magical thing. Sure our bodies will change…that is nature and it is beautiful…but the real magic comes from the self awareness and knowledge of who we are as women.

I always hear women in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s tell me that it wasn’t until they were in their late 40’s that they TRULY stopped caring about the noise of others and started to really listen to themselves.

While I am not scared of aging, I know that it is a real fear many women face. We are constantly confronted with “anti-aging” this and that and treatments and skin care and procedures. We are told daily in commercials and celebrity that we are not allowed to get older.

Kristen Bartlett, one of our Self Love Ambassadors said it best to me…”I don’t want to age like a Kardashian…I want to age like Meryl Streep, gracefully and authentically”

Of course Meryl has some professional press images with photoshop (let me tell you straight up that a good camera and contrasty light will show every line on your face no matter what age you are, so photoshop is not about changing who you are but about refocusing the eyes on what really matters) but she is the epitome of authenticity. Meryl is my idol. She always has been and she ALWAYS will be.

So my beautiful friends, take a minute and read the small vulnerable statement this weeks #LRPBoudieBeauty shared with us below and check out her art. Take part in celebrating the grace in aging.

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“The message I want to send is that my insecurity is the fear of aging, wrinkles……not being young anymore, especially with 50 right around the corner. I want to express that your Self Love Experience was an excuse (in addition to the anniversary present) to celebrate myself and see myself in a different light, because it’s not what I see in the mirror. I’m not articulate with writing, so I appreciate you helping me out lol.
Btw Rob LOVED the album……all he kept saying when he looked at it was that I was so beautiful! Thank you so much Lindsay!!!! XO.” ~ Mrs. I

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Check out her beautiful final art! I am simply in love!